Got Goals?

I don’t.

A friend from a writing group I belong to wrote a post outlining her goals for the month of February. It made me happy to see how well it worked for her the previous month. I believe in the power of positive thinking and goal setting but I am stuck.

So stuck.

I have no goals. I’m drifting aimlessly for the first time in my life. Obviously, I’m happily churning away here and on various freelance projects but I’m not actively seeking more and can’t figure out why. I’ve talked about it with a few friends and most think it’s because of our current nomadic existence.


I am way out of my element but my life is comfortable and full of happiness. The kids have been sleeping fairly well. I have no clue what’s going on. I can’t motivate myself to scheme or dream up anything exciting. It’s very unlike me. I’m trying to force myself back in to a writing routine to see if that helps me get back to pitching or book writing mode because I do love to write. I’m not going to abandon it and it seems reckless to continue without a plan.

Where is my motivation?

The year is still fresh and I’ve read countless posts about new beginnings, making this the best year yet, and all that happy faced glittery stuff but it won’t rub off on me. I’m so blah when it comes to motivation lately.

I think it’s a cycle. I haven’t set goals because I don’t know what I want. I don’t know what I want so there are no goals to set. Am I making any sense?

2012 was an incredible year for me and so far 2013 has been as well. I have everything I need and want. Should I want more? What happened to my motivation? I try to remind myself that this state of temporary stagnation won’t last forever.

I hope.


How do you motivate yourself?

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  1. I thought I’d comment and tell you that I thought I didn’t have goals. Well, I thought I had some minor goals. But then I took the 30 Day Push Challenge from Chalene Johnson (it was free) and it caused me to brainstorm — to brainstorm all the CRAZY goals that at the end of the year would be like “wow, that would be so awesome if it happened” type goals. Do I think that I’ll actually achieve them? Maybe. I hope so. I’m working towards them. But once I put pen to paper and brainstormed them out, I started to actively think about what it would take to accomplish them, even if they were crazy out of this world dreams, and started putting it into action. So maybe just take some brainstorming ideas — even if it’s small things like you’d like to organize your closets better or learn another language or read more books, I think it’s always important to strive for more, to strive to be better, to strive to have a better marriage/parenting skills, a better education, etc. etc.

    I hope you find your motivation soon. I have days, weeks, where I’m in a rut and what nothing to do expect spend time with my babies and watch mindless TV :), but I eventually get that shot of motivation and remember that I can’t do that forever :).

  2. Honestly? These are my thoughts: you’re in the middle of MAJOR transitions– living in London (for a very limited period of time), trying to figure out what to do for the month after that, and I’m sure there’s lots of thought and planning about what you do then once you move to your new home and try to get set up there, etc. Why not just revel in the NOW for a bit? Instead of looking to the future, keep your eyes on the here and now, enjoying your days and hours and minutes as they go by, especially since you’re in a great place and won’t be there for long. Once you’re back and settled, *then* sit down and brainstorm goals for yourself. My guess is by then you’ll have inspiration. Right now there’s so much going on and so much novelty and things to get used to and process, I bet it’s difficult for your brain to even think of new goals down the road (at least, I know that’s how I often operate).

    So those are my two cents… cut yourself some slack, enjoy your life right now, and once things settle down a bit focus on what goals you want to make for yourself.
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    • Thanks so much Marcy. You and Mindy are right. I should chill the hell out and see what comes of it. There are a million things going on and a ton of huge changes coming and it’s all great but very jarring too.

      Thanks again xo
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  3. I agree with Marcy. If I was in your position right now my brain would be numb from all that it has to process. And, by the time you work to execute any goals, it’s likely you’ll be packing your bags.

    With that said, there is always a good chance that something unexpected will fall in your lap. You never know!
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  4. Marcy expressed exactly what I was thinking. I’m the same way and need goals or I start freaking out because “nothing is happening!” But LIFE is happening. And you should try to enjoy it :)
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  5. I love the idea of charting out goals. I feel the same way about how difficult it is to write it all down. Brainstorming is a great idea, but I would need to force myself to set some deadlines… While you are in London, just try to soak up as much of the experience as you can. Don’t worry about the goals as much, maybe just briefly write down what happens and your thoughts each day in a private journal—a place where you can write without self-editing. Then when you get home, you can look back at it. Even somehow making notes about the photos you take would be wonderful to use later. xo
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  6. This really struck me: “I have everything I need and want.”

    You mentioned being completely happy and having all of your needs & wants met. So honestly, what would your goals entail?

    Sometimes we get so caught up in “grind mode,” where everything and everyone around us is constantly talking about grinding/striving/working hard that we think we should constantly be on the same treadmill.

    Most of the people on grind mode, however, are probably not as comfortable and as happy as you are right now. So my advice? Chill. Enjoy your incredibly awesome and brief time in London and when you’re supposed to figure out what to do next, you will.

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